Switches · Brooklyn, New York
I tie in one circle and get tied in another, and they never meet
Pinned as two_halves
- Wants
- somebody who would know both halves of me at once
- Rope so far
- Ten years, split down the middle between two groups of strangers.
- Around
- Brooklyn, New York
In one part of this city I am somebody who ties. In another part, twenty minutes away, I am somebody who gets tied. Those two rooms do not overlap and as far as I know not one person has ever been in both. It started as an accident of who I met first and it has hardened into a genuinely odd way to live.
Thirty eight, Brooklyn, ten years in. What made it obvious was a conversation last year where somebody described me to a third person, quite accurately, and I realised the description was about half of me and they had no idea there was another half.
I do not think I was hiding. I think I simply never mentioned it, twice, for years, and the city is big enough that nobody put it together.
What I want now is one person who gets both. Not two arrangements. One relationship in which I do both things with the same person, which I have managed exactly once, for eleven months, and which was the best thing I have had. I am not trying to merge my social life and I am not going to bring anybody to either room until it means something.
Not looking for anybody who wants only one of the two, which I understand and which is most people. Not looking for somebody who will need to know which one I am in advance of an evening. And not looking for anything where the swap has to be an occasion.