Rope bottoms · Prenzlauer Berg, Berlin
Two years away, and the body I came back with is different
Pinned as body_after_two_years
- Wants
- a partner interested in what works now rather than what used to
- Rope so far
- Nine years, then two years of nothing, and six months of finding out.
- Around
- Prenzlauer Berg, Berlin
I stopped for two years for reasons that were mostly to do with a job and partly to do with a person, and when I came back last autumn I found that quite a lot had changed. Not dramatically. I am simply forty three rather than forty one, I sit down for a living now, and there are things that used to be easy and are now a negotiation with myself.
The interesting part is that it has made me much better at the actual conversation. At thirty five I would put up with something for ten minutes rather than interrupt an evening. Now I say it immediately and without any apparatus around it, which several people have told me is a relief.
Forty three, Prenzlauer Berg, nine years of experience and six months of relearning what applies.
What I want is somebody who takes the current version at face value. I will tell you what works, we will find out the rest together, and I would rather do that with one person over a long stretch than explain myself repeatedly to new people.
Not looking for anybody who wants to help me get back to some earlier condition, which is not a project I am running. Not looking for someone who will treat every constraint as an opening bid. And not looking for anything that requires me to be certain in advance about how an evening will go, because at the moment I am not.