Riggers · Neukölln, Berlin
Forty, and I would like a family, which changes what this is
Pinned as family_eventually
- Wants
- somebody whose plans for the next decade are compatible with mine
- Rope so far
- Fourteen years, and a fairly clear idea of what comes next.
- Around
- Neukölln, Berlin
I am forty and I would like a family, and I have come to think it is dishonest to leave that out of a post like this. It is not something I want to discover a shared position on in year three. So it goes here, at the top, where it will lose me most of the replies and save everybody a year.
Neukölln, fourteen years of rope. I am not asking anybody to decide anything now. I am saying that this is the direction I am facing and that I would rather be with somebody facing the same way.
The reason it belongs on a board about rope specifically is that everyone I know whose life changed in that way describes the same thing happening to the practice. It does not stop. It becomes fortnightly, then monthly, then a thing you plan around other people. I have watched four couples go through it and the ones who were fine had talked about it in advance.
So I want somebody who wants both, understands the trade, and is not going to be surprised.
Not looking for anybody who is certain they do not want children, which is a completely reasonable position and not compatible with mine. Not looking for something short. And not looking to have this conversation on a first evening, since I have now had it here and it can sit for a while.