Riggers · Kreuzberg, Berlin
Six years of this and I have never been in a room with anybody
Pinned as never-been-to-anything
- Wants
- somebody who does not need me to be part of anything
- Rope so far
- Six years, one partner, learned entirely in a flat.
- Around
- Kreuzberg, Berlin
Six years and I have never been to a single organised thing. Everything I know came from one person, in a flat, over about four years, and from a great deal of reading and repetition afterwards. I am aware that this makes me an unknown quantity and I would rather say it than have it emerge.
Thirty, Kreuzberg. It was not a decision at first. She did not go to anything either and it never came up. By the time we ended, going somewhere alone as a person nobody had ever seen felt absurd, and I have never got past that.
What I am not doing is pretending it is a virtue. There are things I have almost certainly got wrong and no one has ever been in a position to tell me. That is the honest cost and I would rather a partner knew it going in.
What I want is one person and something long and domestic. If in a year she wanted us to go somewhere together, I would go.
Not looking for anybody who needs a partner with standing in a community, since I have none. Not looking for somebody who would be my introduction to the whole social side, which is a lot to put on a person. And not looking for anything short, because six years with one person has clearly not equipped me for it.