Riggers · Prenzlauer Berg, Berlin
Two years and then I go home, and I will not pretend otherwise
Pinned as then_i_go_home
- Wants
- somebody who wants two good years and is not deceiving themselves about it
- Rope so far
- Nine years, one long partnership, currently on a posting.
- Around
- Prenzlauer Berg, Berlin
I am here for two more years and then I am going back, and that is a decision rather than a possibility. My mother is not well, my brother cannot manage it alone, and I have already extended once. So there is no version of this where I am persuaded to stay, and I would like nobody to spend a year quietly hoping.
Thirty three, Prenzlauer Berg, nine years of rope, one partnership of four years behind me.
What I am offering is two years of the real thing. A standing evening or two, everything you would expect of a proper partnership, and complete honesty about the date. What I am not offering is a long distance arrangement afterwards, because I have watched three of those and they were all a slow, painful way of not ending something.
I know exactly how this reads and I have thought about whether it is fair to post at all. The conclusion I came to is that people here do this constantly and mostly without saying so, and that stating it plainly is the least bad version.
Not looking for somebody who has just arrived and is on their own countdown, since two countdowns produce something neither of us would take seriously. Not looking for anything casual, which is the opposite of the point. And not looking to be talked out of the plan, which I have had attempted and which was exhausting for both of us.