Couples · the east end, Toronto
Twenty six years married, five with rope, and we have never been to anything
Pinned as twenty_six_years_together
- Wants
- one or two people we could ask the questions we cannot ask each other
- Rope so far
- Five years, entirely at home, entirely worked out between the two of us.
- Around
- the east end, Toronto
Twenty six years married, five of them with rope in the house, and we have never once been anywhere that other people who do this go. Not a single evening, not a single room. We came to it late, in our fifties, on our own, and it has been the best five years of the marriage by a margin we find slightly embarrassing to admit to.
Fifty six and fifty eight, the east end. Neither of us is shy and neither of us is ashamed. We simply started it privately, the private version has been so satisfying that we never got round to the other part, and now it feels a little like arriving at a party five years after it began.
What we have run out of is people to ask. Everything either of us knows came from books, from watching things, and from each other, and there is a whole category of question that two people who learned together cannot answer, because we have precisely the same blind spots and we acquired them at the same time.
So we are looking for one or two people of any age who have been doing this a long while and would be willing to be asked things over dinner. We are not after instruction in any formal sense and we are not after a third or a fourth. We would like company, and somebody to tell us whether the way we do things is odd.