Switches · Manhattan, New York
My ex moved to a different scene and it solved everything
Pinned as ex_changed_boroughs
- Wants
- somebody who understands that a clean break here is mostly luck
- Rope so far
- Eight years, one relationship of three, and an unusually tidy ending.
- Around
- Manhattan, New York
He moved. Not out of the city, just across it, into a completely different set of people who do this, and within four months we had stopped running into each other entirely. I want to be honest that this was enormous luck and that I have felt vaguely guilty about it ever since, because I have watched three friends go through the other version.
Thirty five, Manhattan, eight years in. The other version is what happens in most places: the same room, the same evening, every fortnight, for years, with somebody you used to live with. Friends of mine have had to be gracious about that for longer than the relationship lasted, and there is nowhere else to go.
Here there is somewhere else to go, and that is the single biggest difference between this city and everywhere else I have done this. It is also why nobody knows anybody's history, which is the same fact wearing a different coat.
What I want is one person, both directions, for a long time. I go to one regular evening and I like the people at it. I am not looking to expand beyond that.
Not looking for anybody who wants to hear about how it ended, which was ordinary. Not looking for someone in the middle of their own bad ending, because I would be no use. And not looking to be told I got off lightly, which I know.