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Rope bottoms · Kreuzberg, Berlin

Everybody assumes you already know, which is hard when you do not

Pinned as nobody_explains

Wants
somebody willing to say the obvious things out loud once
Rope so far
Fourteen months, mostly spent working out what people meant.
Around
Kreuzberg, Berlin

The good thing about this city is that nobody makes a fuss. The difficult thing about this city, if you are new, is that nobody makes a fuss, so nothing gets explained. Everybody talks as though you have been doing it for a decade and it would be faintly rude of them to check.

I have spent fourteen months nodding along and then going home to work out what was meant. That is not a complaint about anybody. It is just genuinely hard to ask a question when the room's whole style is that questions are unnecessary.

Twenty eight, Kreuzberg. What I would like is somebody patient enough to say the obvious things aloud once, without turning it into instruction, and then get on with it. There is a difference between explaining and teaching and I am after the first.

What I want in the longer run is one person and something steady. I lean strongly towards being tied and I have no curiosity at all about the other direction, which I mention because everybody asks.

Not looking for a teacher or a mentor, which is a whole category here and not what I am after. Not looking for somebody who will find my questions charming. And not looking for anything fast, since fourteen months in I would rather admit I am still working most of it out.

Before you answer this one

You would be the one tying. These three are about what the person in the rope actually needs.

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