Switches · Kreuzberg, Berlin
My grown son lives with me, so my flat is not an option
Pinned as my_son_lives_here
- Wants
- somebody with their own space and no curiosity about my household
- Rope so far
- Nineteen years, both ends, and no privacy at home for three of them.
- Around
- Kreuzberg, Berlin
My son is in his twenties and lives with me, and given what a flat costs here he will be living with me for a while yet. We get on. It is a perfectly good arrangement and it means that my home is not available for any of this, ever, and will not be for years.
Fifty, Kreuzberg, nineteen years in and both ends of the rope. Three years ago this would have been a temporary inconvenience. It is now simply a fact about me and I lead with it because it decides more than anything else in this post.
So I need somebody with their own place who is genuinely relaxed about always hosting. I know that is a real imbalance. What I can do in return is travel, always, at any hour, and bring dinner, and never once cancel.
What I want is a partnership rather than an arrangement. One person, twice a week if that works, over a long time. I have had two long ones and I know how good the fourth year is.
Not looking for anybody who wants to meet my son or be introduced to my household, which is not on offer. Not looking for somebody who will find the hosting imbalance fine for six months and then resent it. And not looking for anything at very short notice, since I need to get across the city.