Switches · the western districts, Berlin
My partner has no interest in this and knows exactly what I am doing
Pinned as partner_does_not_tie
- Wants
- a rope partnership that fits honestly into a life that is already full
- Rope so far
- Twelve years, married for nine, one arrangement that ran four years.
- Around
- the western districts, Berlin
My partner does not tie, does not want to learn, has been to one gathering out of curiosity and found it mildly boring, and is entirely comfortable with me doing this elsewhere. That was settled years ago and it is not fragile. What it is, is specific, and the specifics are what this post is about.
One person. One evening a week, which is in our shared calendar. My partner knows your first name and roughly what your life looks like. Nothing is hidden and nothing is discovered later. In exchange, weekends are not available and neither are holidays.
Forty, out west, twelve years in and both ends of the rope depending on who I am with. My last arrangement ran four years and ended when she moved to Leipzig, amicably, with a long dinner.
The reason I am so procedural about this is that I have watched the vague version go wrong for three separate couples. What ruins it is never the rope. It is a drift in hours that nobody agreed to.
Not looking for anybody who wants more than one evening, because that is genuinely all there is. Not looking for somebody who would prefer not to know about my household. And not looking for a partner who will spend a year hoping the arrangement changes, since it will not.