Rope bottoms · Brooklyn, New York
I organise every part of this and I would like to stop
Pinned as i_arrange_it_all
- Wants
- somebody who will occasionally make a plan without being asked
- Rope so far
- Six years, three partnerships, all of which I ran the calendar for.
- Around
- Brooklyn, New York
I found the room. I checked the dates. I worked out the trains, sent the reminder, brought the food, and remembered whose week it was to be somewhere else. In three separate relationships. It is not that any of these men were lazy. It is that I am good at organising and I did it once, and then it was mine forever.
Thirty one, Brooklyn, six years in. There is a particular irony in being the person who plans everything and also the person who would quite like, for two hours a week, to hand over every single decision. I have said that out loud twice and both times it was received as a joke.
What I want is somebody who will occasionally send me a message saying where and when without my having prompted it. That is a low bar and I have not cleared it since about my second year.
The rest of what I want is ordinary. One person, regular, over a long stretch. I am not asking to be looked after in any wider sense. I have a career and a lease and a retirement account and I am extremely competent. I would just like one part of my life that somebody else runs.
Not looking for anybody who wants me to arrange our introduction. Not looking for a man who confuses the above with wanting to be controlled generally, because I do not and would be unbearable at it. And not looking for anything that starts with a long negotiation I have to write down.