Rope bottoms · Noord, Amsterdam
My knee decided something and my partner had to hear it from me
Pinned as my_knee_decided
- Wants
- somebody who takes a stated limit as information rather than a puzzle
- Rope so far
- Twelve years, and a practice that is narrower than it was.
- Around
- Noord, Amsterdam
My knee has been through one operation and will not be going through another. There is a category of thing I used to do routinely and simply do not now, and the hard part was never the knee. It was saying it to somebody who had known me for four years and remembered exactly what I had been able to do.
He took it well, eventually. For the first few months he kept offering, kindly, and every offer required me to say no again, and by about the fifth time I was angry in a way that was not fair to him and was entirely about the knee.
Forty one, Noord, twelve years of this. What I do now is narrower and I like it a good deal more than I expected to. That is my own account of my own practice and I am not making any claim at all about anybody else's.
What I want is somebody who can hear a limit as information rather than as an obstacle to be worked around. I am not fragile and I do not need managing. I need the list to be taken as the list.
Not looking for anybody who wants to know whether it might improve. Not looking to go through the medical history in detail, because it is dull and it is mine. And not looking for a partner who will treat the narrower version as a lesser one, which happened once and took about a year to undo.