I would like to be bad at this with somebody, at the same time

I would like to be bad at this alongside somebody, at the same time, in a kitchen, with neither of us in any position to correct the other. That is a peculiar thing to be asking a stranger for, and I have turned it over for months, so let me explain why it is not the same as asking to be taught.

Twenty eight, the south of the city, about four months in. What I have already noticed is that the moment one person knows more, a shape appears between them, and that shape is very hard to get rid of later. It is nobody's fault. It is what happens when one of you is the source of everything the other one knows.

I have watched two couples who started together and they have something I want badly. They disagree. They remember the same bad evening differently. Neither of them defers, because there is no one present with the authority to be deferred to, and after three or four years they have built a way of doing this that genuinely belongs to both.

So I am looking for somebody also at the start, who wants a relationship rather than a hobby partner, and who is content for the pace to be slow, because two beginners cannot be anything else. We would go to things, understand about a third of what we saw, and talk about it all the way home.

Not looking for anybody experienced, which I know is an unusual filter and is not a comment on anyone. Not looking for a hurry of any kind.