Riggers · the south of the city, Manchester
Tuesday and Thursday, for years, and most people leave before year two
Pinned as week_has_two_evenings
- Wants
- somebody who wants that much of one person and says so
- Rope so far
- Eleven years, two partnerships, the longer one six years.
- Around
- the south of the city, Manchester
Tuesday and Thursday. That is the offer, and I want to describe what it costs before somebody agrees to it cheerfully in week one. Tuesday I leave work early. Thursday I am no use the following morning. Everything else in my life has been arranged around those two evenings for six years and it is going to stay arranged around them.
Thirty six, the south of the city, eleven years in. People underestimate this constantly. They hear two evenings and picture two nights out, which is nothing. It is not nothing. It removes roughly a third of the free time an adult with a job actually has, it goes on for years, and it is the entire reason any of this gets good.
What you get for it is somebody who does not cancel, who is there in February when it is dull and grey and neither of us is inspired, and who after a year knows enough that most things no longer need saying out loud. None of that exists on the near side of a great deal of repetition.
I am looking for a partner who reads all of the above as a description rather than a warning. Somebody who wants that much of one person. A good number of people find that idea suffocating. There is nothing wrong with feeling it, and I would far rather hear it this week than next spring.
So read the two evenings as the actual offer rather than as a formality. It is a lot. It is also the only way I know how to do this properly.