Switches · Neukölln, Berlin
I am a completely different person between November and March
Pinned as summer_and_winter
- Wants
- somebody who will still be there in February without needing much
- Rope so far
- Ten years, and a seasonal pattern I have stopped fighting.
- Around
- Neukölln, Berlin
From about November to March I want very little from anybody. Not depression, or not exactly. It is that the light goes and my appetite for people goes with it, and for four months I would rather be at home with a book than doing anything at all. Then it comes back in the spring, entirely, as though nothing had happened.
Thirty four, Neukölln, ten years in. This has ended two things, both of which began in a summer, and in both cases the other person quite reasonably concluded in January that they had been dropped.
So I now say it in advance and I have a plan for it, which is that during the winter I keep one thing a week and let everything else go. If we have a standing evening, that evening survives. It might be shorter and quieter than in July and it will still happen.
What I would like is somebody whose own winter is also thin, or who has enough going on that four months of a reduced version is manageable.
Not looking for anybody who needs a consistent level of contact across a year. Not looking for somebody who will read February as a verdict on them. And not looking to be told about lamps and vitamin regimes, all of which have been suggested to me at length and none of which is the point.