Backup person

Hello everyone! We all understand the critical nature of having a reliable release system in place. It needs to be solid, like an anchor for rock climbing where your life depends on it. There’s no better support than a friend who checks in and steps in if plans change. So, I’m launching this thread to help people locate a partner nearby. Please share your general location and contact details here if you’re interested in partnering up. You can decide the next steps as you see fit, but I believe this approach will enhance safety for our self-bondage activities. Feel free to share any other thoughts too. I’m located in Stamford, CT, and open to meeting people and chatting. Best wishes, enjoy your time securely tied!

Hmm... I suspect this might not go very far. Our user base covers most of the English-speaking globe (and beyond—I’ve met some Germans), totaling around 6740 members or so. Roughly half have either never posted, or just asked a single question and vanished after getting an answer. The geographic challenge has come up before (admittedly, you’re the first to propose a self-bondage reason for meeting up locally rather than something couple-focused), and realistically, the chances of finding another board member within 100 km are quite low (except in outliers like Seattle). There’s also the safety concern with inviting an unknown netizen over. The internet makes deception easy; any decent predator could convince you they’re safe and willing to watch out for you while you’re tied up and vulnerable, potentially doing whatever they please. Plus, if they arrive early—say 90 minutes instead of the expected hour—they can bypass your standard release method entirely before things are finished. So, you must weigh the likelihood of mechanical failures against trusting a stranger who may or may not be as reliable online. Personally, I’d suggest using someone you actually know, or arranging for an ambulance to visit. (I prefer cops over paramedics because there are usually more of them, though they can be more aggressive.) Alternatively, design robust failsafes that won’t fail. For example, integrating a lock into the restraints themselves works well—the ice will melt eventually unless you live in an igloo, but since it’s part of the restraint structure itself, struggling helps pull any snags through. Keys are good for primary releases, but a properly executed direct ice release is highly reliable. (Just ensure you can tug it slightly off-center and still have it slide free.)

A quick lesson in statistics: The community forum: - Population: 6740 - Percentage of world population: approx. 0.0001% Connecticut: - Population: 3.6 million (2012 estimate) - 0.0001% of 3.6 million = 3.6 people. Let’s round that down to three, since having 0.6 of a person is rather unpleasant regardless of which end you consider. I won’t even discuss the remaining 0.4 wandering about. You might have a chance at around half a dozen if you include Massachusetts and Rhode Island. If someone drives from NYC, perhaps a dozen. But limiting your search to the immediate area restricts choices to those three or fewer (or that unpleasant prospect of 0.6). This issue has been raised before, especially for newcomers seeking a Dom or Domme to flog them thoroughly. Most members here prefer privacy and avoid face-to-face contact with other board members. I strongly recommend using your preferred search engine to find BDSM communities in your area and surrounding regions, allowing you to connect locally and meet like-minded people in person before committing further. Regardless, there will be more than 3.6 actual people involved, no messy fractions.