Should I Keep My Clothes Or Ditch Them?

Hi everyone, I’ve recently decided to give dating another shot (27 years old). The reason I stepped back for the last few years is that my previous girlfriend found out about my collection and, well, it was over. My current dilemma is: what’s the best way to ensure no one else finds out without just tossing everything? And please don’t suggest sending them your way—I’m looking for a real solution here. Thanks.

In my opinion, the only option is finding someone who can accept it. Since cross-dressing is part of your identity, you won't be able to simply "leave that behind / get rid of it". Moreover, if a long-term relationship is what you want, a partner should fully embrace you as you are. This means being upfront about it yourself. Of course, not being accepted might sting, but I'm quite sure the pain will be far greater if you build up a connection, keep your fetish hidden, and she discovers it months or years later before breaking things off. So my recommendation is to stay both loyal and truthful. Best, Blacky

I strongly agree with Blacky's advice - I've been there, done that! My Lady accepted all but one of my kinks (along with other aspects of discovering them). The one she won't accept is cross-dressing, so that's something I no longer do (the trade-off is enjoying everything else we share:-) ) Some women are very accepting of men who cross-dress - My Lady has no issue with it in others, just not me. I know quite a few CDs whose partners either tolerate or encourage the habit. The best approach is honesty, and hoping your partner falls into those latter two categories, since you're bound to be found out eventually.