New to self-bondage: exploring the ten-point under-bed restraint system?

Hello. I am a single (virgin:oops: ) female of 26 years, and although I have never tried self-bondage before, I find myself becoming more drawn to purchasing a ten point under bed restraint system. I’m not looking for extreme self-bondage or anything overly sexual; however, the idea of being bound in these restraints gets me excited. Since this is new territory for me, I am unsure if I will like it or be scared by the restriction. I want to keep my feelings private from family members who might think I’m odd, so I hope that you folks here—who understand—can give me some guidance.

Being ‘bound’ and feeling trapped has always appealed to me, but I wonder if I am ready to take this next step into acting out my fantasy. I really want to!

I’d like to know what it’s like inside a ten point under bed restraint system? Can you have multiple orgasms while restrained? What does that sudden realization of being ‘trapped’ feel like—is the excitement real, and if so, how long does it last and does it boost your orgasms?

Every time I orgasm, I immediately get tired and let down because I don’t know how to go again right away when the sensation fades. I wish I could have a few in succession but can’t. Would a ten point restraint system help me achieve more or stronger orgasms? Do you get more excited as you realize you’re trapped, or do you just feel weary and want out? I’d love to spend several hours bound in such a system and experience multiple orgasms—any advice?

Of course, having a boyfriend helps too!

Welcome to the forum!:hi: If you haven't done self-bondage before, I recommend not going whole-hog with an expensive or complicated piece of equipment (especially if you're still unsure about enjoying it). Start simple—like rope, chain, and padlocks—and build up from there. The best place to begin is our main site's archived discussion; it has extensive information and scenarios for beginners, plus useful links. Pay close attention to safety and how releases work. > member_c417547386 wrote:Other than having a boyfriend of course! Don't rule out a like-minded friend (male or female) as your two-legged backup release.:wink: Jenny.

Welcome to the forum! No, you aren't "strange"; you just have an alternative sexuality, like most of us here. You'll find that many people dabble in bondage and BDSM generally but rarely admit it. Going to a Munch for the first time can be quite eye-opening—seeing all these kinky people who look so normal! I'm not qualified to speak on female orgasms (except from my ability to cause them:lol: ), but from my male perspective, once an orgasm happens, desire changes completely. When I did self-bondage, it usually marked the end of a scene, and escape/release was the only goal thereafter. (With partnered play, things are different.) I agree entirely with Jenny; start slow and try simple ties. Will you get more orgasms while tied? It depends on what triggers them. If you can orgasm purely from the situation itself, you may well have several—women are lucky in their ability to climax multiple times quickly, though not everyone can. If using a vibrator, continued vibration might extend the orgasm, create multiples, or simply become painful (a good torture for either sex!). Perhaps experiment with timers: turn it on for a while, then off and back again? How long does excitement last? That depends on what you're doing. I found that just being bound and unable to escape became boring over time, so I used various forms of stimulation—clamps, pegs, TENS units—and as an Electronics Engineer, developed controllers for random electrical or vibrator stimulation. Judging by posts here, this is a common approach, though personally I wouldn't use a computer to stimulate me or act as my release. Finally, read the articles and stories on the main site, browse posts here, and ask ANY questions. You definitely won't get flamed for newbie questions (we set Jenny-the-Whip on those who try:shock: ).