Building Confidence

Currently, I’m struggling with self-confidence regarding the idea of trying out self bondage. Even during my marriage, we never really dabbled in it. That doesn’t mean I wasn’t interested; for many years—long before tying the knot—I wanted to be bound and gagged, ideally wearing panties. With my divorce now behind me, this feels like the perfect window.

But somehow, it isn’t working out yet.

I really want to stroll into a regular shop or supermarket and pick up some panties just for myself. I’d love to pop into an adult store and grab a ball gag along with handcuffs (hoping they have a decent release mechanism). Yet, I hold back because of that inner voice—the sensible one—that keeps me in check. I dream of dressing up looking quite ‘tarty’ while bound and gagged, but being tall, big-built, and rather hairy feels like a significant drawback; I worry about appearing silly.

Ideally, I’d have someone there with me while tied up—not to take advantage, but for safety reasons. However, it’s hard to ask people that directly. If self bondage is the path forward, so be it, but confidence is key. There are other elements contributing to this hurdle too.

Any tips, ideas, or perhaps recommendations for chat rooms and websites would be incredibly helpful. Gagman42:(