Staying Connected While with a Partner

I live with my partner and things are great; we share similar interests, if you catch my drift. Because of this, I tend to practice self-bondage only when she’s out or when the mood strikes us while “playing” together. So I’m curious: who here did self-bondage alone but then stopped once they got into a relationship? Did you keep it secret, or were you both open to self-bondage and just “played” separately? Just wondering what others do with a partner…