Inquiries from us gentlemen regarding female practices

I’m a 29-year-old male who enjoys selfbondage. Although I am married, my wife isn’t particularly into bondage. We have attempted some soft-bondage play together, but she doesn’t find it very attractive:cry: I own an inflatable butt-plug (which she hasn’t discovered yet), and I often wonder what to say if she ever finds my bondage toys. To me, the inflatable plug offers a blend of humiliation and pleasure, though explaining this to my wife at that moment feels impossible. I’m curious whether the women on this forum engage in anal play during selfbondage, and if they also do it while having sex with a partner:?: (Pardon my poor English.)