relationship issue caused by pornography?

hello.. [ ..please if you are not in the mood to read the whole post, read only the underlined part.. ]

after a year of being single, I’m now in a relationship. However, I have a serious issue.. i’ve watched way too much porn… i began with straightforward content and gradually moved toward kinkier material over time. i also used to masturbate daily.. the “straight sex” videos i started watching as a teen were very stimulating and would get me aroused quickly.. now, several years later, i struggle to maintain an erection even while viewing that same straight porn, and i really crave the kinky bondage content found on sites like or similar. for the past year, my main consumption has been bondage videos.

the trouble is, real-life sex no longer holds my interest.. a girlfriend who ties me up, spanks me, licks me, and begs for help kept me hard for about a year.. but today, i can’t enjoy straightforward sex. normal foreplay just doesn’t cut it.. we’ve tried intercourse three times, and on all those occasions, i went soft and we didn’t make love.. she got quite frustrated with me by the third attempt.. i told her i was simply tired.. moments before putting on the condom, i found myself thinking that sex is dull and I don’t want to do it; like I’m weary of it. what’s going on? a year alone did this..

it seems I became REALLY desensitized by porn over these years.. my mind has shifted entirely to bondage now. i can’t appreciate my lovely partner..we are unable to have sex, simply because i only want her begging for release or doing things I see in the bondage films.. i’ve deleted/cracked my old porn DVDs and cleared out my bookmarks, stopped masturbating, and made other changes.. i want to return to a normal state where just seeing a naked woman is enough to get me aroused…

is there a way back to normalcy, and how long will it take? I really despise myself right now. I feel useless.. t thanks A LOT for reading.. related: … 527AAk6Aqu