Helping Your Partner Embrace More Bondage

There’s a scenario that has me puzzled. Last week marked my birthday—a nice one, divisible by five. My wife gave me an excellent back rub and finished by taking hold of my arms, tucking them behind me, then rolling me over. I’ve seen this before, so it wasn’t entirely new territory. With my arms secured behind her, she climbs on top of me, keeping those limbs in place. It feels like a gentle form of bondage lite. You can probably guess the rest (feel free to ask for more details if you’re curious).

I’ve been pretty direct with her about wanting more, suggesting things like tying my hands behind my back. I even offered up a tie—which works since I don’t have to wear them constantly—or just a rope. She seems okay with the idea but hasn’t quite jumped in. My attempts at engaging her feel like hitting a wall; she isn’t opening up much.

I do enjoy this setup, yet I crave more depth. How should I push for that next level? Or is it better to accept things as they are and just keep enjoying them? This summary is brief, but there’s plenty of history behind the scenes.

Thanks for listening; any advice would be great.